Life after Guillain-Barre Syndrome ….. Choosing the Packet of Broken Biscuits!

If you have a partner when you get ill, it’s almost expected of them to stand by you, and care for you after you’ve been seriously unwell. I was in a relationship with someone when I got Guillain-Barre Syndrome, albeit only for a few months. He stood by me whilst I was in hospital, but the pressure and reality of what has happened to me, and the disabilities I am now left with pulled us apart.

Being single is a whole different ball game to being in an already established relationship. I don’t mean in regards to doing housework and looking after the children, I mean as a couple. Dating after Guillain-Barre feels virtually impossible. I’ve dipped my toes in the water, so to speak ….. And sunk!

The first and biggest obstacle is finding someone who wants a disabled girlfriend. Declaring on your online profile that you need a stick and a wheelchair is hardly sexy! A man can tap his chosen age range and post code in on a dating site and find a hundred single women who live close by. Why out of those hundred women would he chose the disabled one? It would be like going into a shop and choosing the chipped ornament, or buying that packet of broken biscuits!

So assuming by some miracle I’m lucky enough to win someone over with my charm and good looks (Ha ha ha, who am I kidding!!!!) then the real fun starts. Starting a new relationship involves looking one’s best. On a child free evening all I want to do is curl up under a blanket in front of the TV, catching up on all my recorded programmes. Dating involves taking the time to do my hair and makeup (Even at the end of the day) and deciding what to wear. Razor??? What’s a razor?!! I’ve not had to bother with one of those in a long time!!!! (Joking!) Seriously though it takes a lot of time and effort.

In all honesty, there are a few decent, kind men out there, who do have the depth and patience to be in a new relationship with me, and I recently met one. Unfortunately it didn’t work out for us due to a number of reasons. Hopefully my Mr Right will come along soon. In the meantime I guess I’ll just enjoy being not-so-young, free and single!

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